With the American Psychological Association reporting that roughly 40 to 50 percent of couples that marry eventually end up getting divorced, it isn’t uncommon to want to do what you can to ensure your marriage lasts. So, if you want to take the extra steps to help your marriage be a successful one, here are three tips:
Tip #1: Create Rituals That You Do Together.
While it is always a good thing to have some “you” time, it is also important to have some “together” time. As a couple, it is understandable that you will have challenges: in-laws, money management, communication, etc. However, it is vital that you do something on a regular basis that will bond you as a couple. This can be anything from something as simple as getting together each morning for a coffee or marking off every Saturday night for a special date night. The important thing is that you do it together and you make it a ritual.
Tip #2: Check in With Each Other Daily.
One of the many reasons that couples grow apart is because they stop communicating. This can be for a number of reasons, but it is important that couples don’t lose that open line of communication throughout their marriage. There are several times of day that you have should check-in, including right when you both get home from work, at the dinner table, or at bedtime. Regardless of the time that you choose to do it, you can talk about how your day was, talk about something that has been bothering you, appreciate something about one another, and even ask one another about a hope that you have for the near or distant future.
Tip #3: Disconnect From the Office When at Home.
Constant use of smartphones is among the numerous reasons that couples fight nowadays, especially when it is tied to work. As a general rule, if your boss is calling you at home, it isn’t good news. Also, if you are working from home, it is because there is a crisis and a serious deadline to meet. This causes stress on your relationship because you are frustrated and more irritable than usual. Therefore, it is important that you try to limit your workload at home as well as your work calls. Also, set a time each night that you will turn your laptop and phone off so that time with your significant other is uninterrupted.
Unfortunately, despite both of your efforts, there may come a time that something happens in your marriage that warrants the need for couples counseling. When this happens, it is important to take the time to interview several counselors until you find one that you both feel comfortable with. Counseling can be a long journey, so it is crucial that you find someone that you feel you can trust. If you have questions or would like more tips on keeping your marriage a happy one, check out my website and contact me directly at Howardrossen.com.